Counselling

Vernette @ Vernyoga is currently not taking on anymore counselling clients and is referring people onto another counseller locally.

Original Vernyoga Counselling information:

 

Any form of counselling or therapy is absolutely confidential and there is no discrimination on the basis of race, colour, physical disability, gender or sexual orientation. For my qualifications, experience and professional memberships, please see my biog page.

 

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I have counselled the bereaved by suicide. This is something I have life experience of and is hard to cope with when you feel no one can really understand unless they have been there, so I’m not just a counsellor who has learnt everything from a textbook, I can empathise with how you really feel.

Bereavement of this kind needs special understanding of the many stages of grief you go through, and in many ways this form of bereavement can take longer than any other as it’s the choice of the individual and the people left behind have so many questions.

I have been counsellor / life coach for 9 years via voluntary, charity and private work mostly for lifestyle, weight management and nutrition, bereavement (especially suicide), separation, relationships, phobias, anxiety and panic, depression, stress, eating disorders, confidence and self-esteem, sleep disorders, trauma.

 

My Style of Counselling:

I wouldn’t say I have one particular style as my study and experience is eclectic. I prefer to adapt to my clients needs as I believe what one approach may work for one, may not work for another.

However approaches I specialize mostly in are:

Yogic Breath and Relaxation therapies to control anxiety, help sleep and stress, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to help thought and behaviour patterns.

 

I offer counselling face to face, telephone or online.

 

Online Counselling

Below is an introduction to the concept of online counselling and my counselling background.

It's not free but there's no need to join anything, no logging in, no passwords and no formal contract and no need to provide any information about yourself that you do not wish to.

It’s available worldwide.

Just get in touch, tell me what you think I need to know about yourself, explain your problems if any in anyway you feel comfortable with  (make it as long as you like), pay for the session and I’ll be hired for you in no time.

It’s a one-time session, so there are no ties, no commitments unless you wish further communications, which is entirely up to you.

You can ask for simple advice on any emotional issue or you can engage me for longer if you have a more complicated problem.

Live sessions last for 1 – 1.5 hours.

I try to reply to emails inside 3 working days, but again this depends on the advice required as some emails are very detailed and may take further research on my part.

 

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You can email, or use Messenger for chat or Skype.  I will only respond to your chat on a  messenger / Skype program if you have paid and arranged a time, I will not be available for chat at any other time.

What you confide in me is totally confidential, otherwise the service would be pointless and I’m accountable to UK law, and work in accordance with the BACP, BPS, MSFTR and CCC codes of ethics which can be found on site.

You can tell me about any issue that affects your emotions, even if you don’t know what is affecting you or why. I have found online counselling to be a really good place to start tackling most things and I will adjust my style of work to suit you.

I’m trained to say what I think and feel about your situation and for some this can be painful, if I ever offend in anyway or you are unhappy about something, you only ever have to say as its YOU that is paying for the service. However, if you only want a counsellor that JUST asks you if you’re alright all the time, then my service is not for you, however it would be something I would start off with to gauge your current feelings, situation and mood.

By all means get in touch if you want to know more. My intention here is to provide a good counselling service that is of help to you.

I’m open to any feedback and suggestions you have about the service and the website.

 

“The saying that time heals all wounds is not necessarily true for everyone. Time is necessary for healing, but time is not enough.
Shared feelings enrich and lead to growth and healing”

 

Understanding some techiniques & therapies:

 

COUNSELLING & PSYCHOTHERAPY

In today’s society there are so many stresses and strains that occur for reasons within or outside our control. These may be as a result of our past, present or future, and may include issues relating to family, money, relationships, expectations, loss, fear, disorders, illness, work, etc.

As a result, more and more people are discovering the benefits of counselling and/or psychotherapy. Both counselling and psychotherapy offer you a chance to talk things through, give you the opportunity to explore the difficulties in your life, and empower you to make the best decisions about what to do.

 

NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING

Neuro – relates to the mind
Linguistic – relates to language
Programming – the sequence of actions used to achieve an outcome

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) studies the structure of how humans think and experience the world. It is a systematic study of human communications. The structure of NLP is subjective and thus does not lend itself to precise, statistical formulae. Instead it leads to models of how these things work.

People make the best-known choice they have at any given time. However the more choices a person has, the better chance they have of success. Through NLP people can learn to achieve better choice/change and improve their personal and/or professional lives.

We are all different so NLP is whatever works for you. NLP believes any system of success can be taught and learnt.

Another, maybe helpful way of looking at how NLP works is by using the following theory:

There is no such thing as ‘one’ reality. Everyone’s perception of reality is literally that…a perception.
Everything we feel, hear and see are all transmitted to the brain and our minds through responses and nerve receptors as in touch, through core and optic nerves as in sight and through channels and canals as in hearing.
Therefore everything we experience is through some kind of filter and our brain then interprets these things based on what we have already learnt in our lives as in presuppositions. It’s like tying our shoelaces everyday…we don’t have to learn it each time as its there in our minds as something we have learnt. It’s the same with the way we think, our language and behaviour as we learn negative forms of this as well as positive and for some people this negative learning is natural to them but destructive.

Working on this principle that our sensors pick up on different things and learn subconsciously from them we have to rethink (neuro), communicate differently (linguistic or language) and act or behave (programming) differently and NLP teaches us the techniques to do this.
       

Some areas in which NLP can be applied include relationship difficulties, negotiation and mediation, fears and phobias, trauma, habits and compulsions, lack of social skills, difficulty in relaxing, chronic injury or pain, life planning, motivation issues, lack of confidence, lack of assertiveness, unproductive meetings, decision making, creativity and cognitive problem solving, time management, etc

 

COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is based on the concept that changing negative thinking patterns and behaviours can have a powerful effect on a person's emotional state.

CBT is a psychological approach, based on scientific principles that have shown to be effective for a wide range of problems with young people, adults, families & individuals. CBT is also based on the logic and belief in the power of the individual to take charge, and to control and change their negative thoughts, feelings and actions.

CBT usually focuses on the “here and now” issues rather than focusing on things from the past. However past issues are focused on where necessary. The therapy normally has three stages: a beginning, a middle and an end. The process employs a very directive, action-oriented approach, which teaches a person to explore, identify and analyse dysfunctional patterns of thinking and acting. This is achieved by the client and therapist working together to identify and understand problems in terms of the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Once the problems and counter productive patterns are identified and analysed a programme of intervention is established and designed specifically to the needs of the individual.

The client will learn to develop alternative and more constructive viewpoints to tackle their problems.

Some areas in which CBT is used for adults, young people, families and individuals are depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), child conduct disorder, anger, trauma, phobias, addictions, eating disorders, PTSD, sleeping disorders, child abuse, personality disorders, chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS), etc    

 

Sessions are currently limited to be held at your home, due to recent closure of the Therapy Centre I was based at.